Paul Michael Menges

Born: Tue., Dec. 7, 1948
Died: Sat., Dec. 17, 2011


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Paul Michael Menges, 63 of Columbia, SC, died Saturday December 17, 2011 at Palmetto Health Richland following a long battle with cancer.

Paul was born in St. Thomas, Virgin Islands, on December 7th, 1948.  He grew up in the Panama Canal Zone, where his father was employed for many years.  After graduation from Cristobal High School in the Canal Zone in 1967, Paul attended Colorado State University before joining the U.S. Army in mid-1969.  While serving on active duty and later, as a civilian employee of the Department of Defense, he completed a bachelor's degree in Business Management and a Master's degree in Forensic Psychology. Mr. Menges was a member of Transfiguration Catholic Church and man of faith. 

After completing Basic Training at Fort Jackson, SC, in 1969, he later graduated from a Military Intelligence Course at Fort Holabird, MD.  His entry into the field of Military Intelligence in 1970 was to become a lifelong career and passion.  After receiving his Badge and Credentials as a Counterintelligence Special Agent in 1973, he served our government and the Department of Defense in a variety of positions, both here and abroad.  He completed German Language training at the Defense Language Institute in Monterey, CA, and served two tours of duty in Counterintelligence assignments in Germany during the 1970s and 1980s.   

During his assignments with the U.S. Army Intelligence and Security Command and later, the Defense Intelligence Agency, he became recognized as a national expert in Counterintelligence  and Credibility Assessment.  He completed polygraph instruction in 1986 and after many years of working in the Counterintelligence and Human Intelligence field as a polygraph examiner, he joined the staff of The Defense Polygraph Institute, at Fort Jackson, SC.  He was a key player in the development specific areas within the field of Credibility Assessment and played a vital role in the development of the Polygraph Institute into what is today the National Center for Credibility Assessment at Fort Jackson, SC.  The Center is recognized around the world as the leading center for credibility assessment and he was routinely sought out as a guest speaker, instructor  and advisor by U.S. national intelligence and law enforcement agencies, as well as foreign governments.  

Paul retired from government service in 2009 and remained in Columbia, SC, with his wife of 41 years.  Paul married, Stephanie, his childhood sweetheart in June of 1970.  They met while in high school in the Panama Canal Zone and spent a lifetime together.  She was the love of his life.  Paul was predeceased by his parents, Melvin and Consuelo (Robles) Menges.  He is survived by Stephanie, their daughter Jennifer Angelucci and son-in-law Tom, of Delran, NJ, and son, Paul, his wife Stacy, and granddaughter, Alivia, of Glen Burnie, MD, his sister, Evelyn Sellers of Okatie, SC, his brother Robert (Bob) Menges of Summerville, SC, and his sister, Judy Sigmon of Newport News, VA.

A private family graveside service will be held Wednesday December 21, 2011 at Fort Jackson National Cemetery with full military honors. In lieu of flowers, Memorials may be made to the American Cancer Society, 128 Stonemark Lane, Columbia, SC 29210. Kornegay & Moseley Funeral Home & Cremation Service is in charge of arrangements.


 

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Darren S. Mott
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Our deepest sympathy in the loss of your loved one. May God give if you comfort and understanding during this most difficult time. Paul touched so many lives and his presence and loving spirit will indeed be missed.

Darren Mott

Dave Fuller
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Stephaine,
It was a real honor to work with Paul back in his DIA days. He was a true professional and great friend. Our country has lost a true American hero. Paul was so proud of his service to our country and expecially proud of his family. God bless you and the family. Dave & Debbie Fuller.

Michael Padua CHS 57
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Dear Stephanie,
May the love of friends and family be a surce of comfort to you at this time.
With sincere sympathy in your loss.
Mike Padua
CHS 57

Lanard Palmer
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
The Palmer family sends our prayers and blessings to the entire Menges Family. Paul and I worked together for many years and since his retirement he has been truely missed. His laughter still rings in my head when I think of him. Paul was a a great co-worker and is watching over all of us now. Think of the good times and again our prayers and blessings go to you all.

Lanard

Jeremy and Nicole Clark
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. He will be missed dearly.

With Love,
Clark Family

Andrew (Andy) Dollins
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
My wife and I would like to extend our condolences to you. Paul was a exceptional man in a group of dedicated public servants. His contributions to our nation's security and its government will not be forgotten.

Andy Dollins

Mary Pope
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Paul was truly a kind and gentle man. As part of his Canal Zone family, I will keep his friends and family in my thoughts and prayers. Rest in peace my friend. Love to you all. Mary

Micky Boettger
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Paul was a great man. I wish you and your family my condolences. You will be in my thoughts and prayers as Paul looks down upon us.

Sincerely,
Micky Boettger

Larry and Brenda Broadwell
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
We are both so sorry for your loss. I enjoyed knowing and working with Paul for a number of years. I regret that I did not get to know hime better after his retirement. Brenda and I wish you and your family the best and may the lord comfort you in your time of sorrow.

Wiht Deepest Sympathy

Larry and Brenda Broadwell

Mike Comstock
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Hille and I were deeply saddened to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

Patrick and Judy Downing
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
What a kind and gentle man he was. We know how much his wife and family meant to him and hard it is now for them. We only knew him for about ten years but felt like he was a lifelong friend. Non-judgemental and accepting of others. We can all learn from his life for our walk to eternity. We love you, Stephanie. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family.
Love,

Pat and Judy

Peter and Jean Sumner
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Peter and I want to express our sincerest condolences to Paul''''s family.

He is now at peace, we pray for the survivors, those who loved Paul.

Only time, not words, is the great healer. God Bless.

Peter and Jean Sumner
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Peter and I want to extend our sincerest condolences to Paul's family.

Paul is now at peace and only time, not words, will help heal the loss.

Our prayers and thoughts are with you at this time. God bless.

Jane Bridgeford Hummer
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Stephanie, you are your family are in our thoughts and prayers. May his strength be your strength now. May his all embracing, kin and thoughtful love carry you on. May the knowledge that so very many people loved and respected you and Paul, love and respect and are here for you now, help you make it through the days ahead.
Randall and I send you all our prayers. Jane

Merri Bandy Lewis
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Stephanie, I did not know Paul personally but as a Balboa High '67 graduate of his same age, I wanted to express my condolences. You and the family will be in my prayers. May he rest in peace.
Merri Bandy Lewis

Francisco Artes
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
When I first arrived at Fort Meade, MD Polygraph Quality Control, Paul was my first line supervisor. His love for his work and professionalism was without a doubt to be admired. Learning this and more was something I freely given to me by Paul. This remained inside with me until I retired and continues to this day. I know all who served with Paul have a special place in their hearts for a man who stood side by side with all of us.

Francisco Artes
Retired, Round Rock, Texas

Jack Sanders
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
My thoughts and prayers are with the Menges family. Paul will never be forgotten by his high school classmates, he was our President and our friend. We will always miss him.

Vera Struba
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Menges Family my throughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

Carl and Dian Upshaw
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
We are so sorry for your loss. We lost a true friend and he will be in our hearts and minds forever. We will keep Paul and his family in our prayers.

Noah and Heather Vaught
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Paul, Stacy, Alivia, and all of the Menges family,

It takes a wonderful man to raise a wonderful son such as the man that I have been blessed to be friends with for so long. Please know that Noah and I have the entire family in our thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time. I pray for you that you may find peace and somehow understand that our Lord has bigger and better missions for your dad.

Love always,

Noah and Heather Vaught

Marianne Field Hockin
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Stephanie and family - the CHS Class of '67 has lost a special friend and classmate.............we will miss Paul dearly and want you to know that we are all keeping you and your family in our prayers at this very sad time. May your family and friends bring you stength at this time....... Our deepest sympathies.......Russ and Marianne

Gordon H. Barland
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Stephanie, my heart goes out to you and your family. Paul was a true friend, and his loss leaves an unfathomable gap in the lives of all he touched. Although I knew him for only a quarter of a century, he was one of those rare people whom you feel you’ve been friends for life.

As Pat and Judy so aptly put it, Paul was kind, gentle, non-judgmental, and accepting of others. He never uttered a harsh word. He could talk easily with anybody on any topic, which is one of the many characteristics which made him so good at what he did. He dedicated his life to defending the freedoms he loved so dearly, and went out the way he lived: fighting valiantly, hoping ever, never accepting defeat. He lives on in the hearts of all who knew him.

Utterly futile words of condolence now, I know, but with time may you adopt: Don’t be sad it’s over. Be happy it was.

Love and peace,

Gordon Barland

Todd Huinker
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
My deepest sympathies to Paul's wife, Stephanie, and their two children, Jennifer and Paul. God bless you, Paul, and God bless your family. You're all in my prayers.

Rudolf Mittermeier (Rudy Day) (Rudy Kocib)
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Irma and I will keep you and your family in our prayers during this time. PAUL
touched many who will miss him.

Jon Coffin
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
From one more classmate,my sincerest sympathies. Sid

Dom and Chris Potito
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I have known Paul since or Army days in 1987. As you already know through all of these condolences, he will be greatly missed.

Anthony Burbine
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
So sorry to hear about Paul. Growing up a house away from Paul in Margarita, he was always someone to look up to. God bless him and his family.

Cheryl Zumbrunn ( De Raps )
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
Stephanie & Family. John & I would like to express our condolences with Paul's leaving us but know his soul is soaring in heaven with our Heavenly Father. Paul has taught us so much with his brave fight against cancer. His Tiger spirit will live on in our hearts forever. God bless your Family. Paul will be missed. Fellow Tiger Class of 67.

David S. Cameron
   Posted Mon December 19, 2011
The world of Polygraph and CI will be a smaller place without Paul; his guidance and expertise.

Jane Huff
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
Stephanie, I am so sorry to hear of Paul's passing. He was truly a wonderful man. Living on 6th Street in the 60's gave me a chance to know him as a boy...seeing him again at the reunions allowed me to witness what a remarkable man he grew into. The love you shared together is something exceptional. Please know that Paul is in my prayers that Our Lord receives him with open arms. You and your family are also in my prayers that He gives you the strength to endure this most difficult time.

Jane

Angela Cherry
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
Stepanie - sending my deepest sympathy for a wonderful dear friend. May God give you and your family strength and comfort during these most cruicial times. Paul was an awesome guy and he will be truly missed by many. May God be with you and your family always.

Angela Cherry

Dale Austin
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
Stephanie and Family,

There was no finer man, no finer supervisor, no finer American than Paul. His qualities and legacy will be eternal. It was an honor to call him boss. Please know each member of his former team at NCCA stand ready to help you any way we can.

Eric A. Nicolaisen
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
Stephanie and family,
Paul was a true warrior that God decided to grant eternal rest to after a long ardous, and exhausting battle. Paul will continue to live in the hearts and minds of those that knew him, and loved him. The dead only truely die, when they are forgotten. His children are his immortality. My thoughts and prayers are with the entire Menges family.

Donna Turner
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
I was so sorry to hear of Paul's passing. His intelligence and quick wit made him such an interesting human being, and his integrity made him such a respected man...

Steve Weller
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
Our deepest sympathies to Paul's family. He was a terrific person. I first met Paul in 1986 shortly after his arrival in polygraph. Through the years, I had the good fortune to work with Paul in a number of jobs. I found him to be a very kind and considerate man. Paul will be sorely missed by all of who had the unique privilege to know him.

Nora Kirkland Bess
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
Please accept our most heartfelt sympathies for your loss…our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. Paul was such a kind person.
Nora, Melvin and Michael Bess

Dean Greer
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
Stephanie and family- On December 17, a man who worked hard and loved his family so very much was called home. Lord, he is the best we have to offer. My life and I believe the lives of all who knew Paul will be less for his absence. Dean Greer

Louis and Patti Hakanson
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
We would like to express our deepest sympathy to Paul''s family at his
passing, he will be very much miss by us all.
The Hakanson family

Stacy Ciampo
   Posted Tue December 20, 2011
Stephanie, Jennifer & Paul - I am so sorry for your loss of a loving husband & father. May the memories of a life time spent together comfort you. Prayerfully, Stacy

Tom Baas
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Stephanie,

Words can not tell my condolences on the passing of Paul. I will always remember how you two were so good together. Be comfortable in knowing that he will always be with you in your heart.

Ron and Luella Smith
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Stephanie, you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. May God give you comfort and understanding that our lord welcomes him with open arms.

Rolie and Maria Mans
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
On this path and voyage called life, some of us are blessed to have know truely blessed individuals. Paul was one. Steph, I am saddened by your loss and the challenges that follow in the near future but Paul was a believer and so are you. There will come a time when all of us are reunited but until then, know you and your family are loved by so many.

Angela Brennan Linton
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Dear Stephanie and Family:

Paul and his family will forever hold a special place in my heart. They were my across-the-street neighbors in Margarita where I had the pleasure of knowing Paul as a fine, young adult.

May God bless you and give you the strength to cope during this difficult time.

Donna (Moore) Sheehan
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Paul was always an outstanding young man, always succeeding and moving forward. As I read about his life since 1967, I learned he had become a remarkable man. It was a privilege to know him.

Sending you prayers for peace and courage, please accept my heartfelt condolences.

Larry and Beverly Diehl
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Bev and I were deeply saddened to hear of your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

Larry and Beverly Diehl

Stephanie (Dempsey) Purser
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Paul and his wife, Stephanie, were and are dear friends of my mother, Glenda (Lewis Dempsey Kochel), CHS Class of 1969. I remember him, his wife, Stephanie, and their children, Jennifer and Paul. It''s sad when good people pass on before their time but Paul left a legacy of being a good man and one his family can be proud of. Stephanie, Jennifer and Paul - know that you are not alone now or ever and we share your sadness. Love, Stephanie

Rod Brayton
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Stephanie and family,
Please accept my sincere condolence. You and the entire Mendes family shall be in my prays.

Jo Lynn (Jones) Graffe
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Stephanie,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Jo Lynn

Teri Hand Bryant
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
I'm so very sorry for your loss....my deepest respect and sympathy.

David and Cheri Shinn
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Paul certainly was a special person and well loved by many. Although we hadn't known him and Stephanie very long, only about 4 years, their lives were a testimony of God's grace working through them. He will be missed dearly by many and our prayers go out to his sweet wife, Stephanie, and their family.

Charles (Chuck) Maack
   Posted Wed December 21, 2011
Paul and I exchanged many emails during his battle with Prostate Cancer. And "battle" he did with his own personal research and study of this insidous disease of men. I know Paul would want all men reading these condolences to be aware of this men''s disease and be sure to get no longer than "annual" PSA blood serum tests and digital rectal exams (DRE) to nip any early development in the bud. I know Paul is now at rest with our Lord and you can bet he will still be present in the minds and hearts of his wife, family, and close friends. Peace is now with you, Paul.

Jim & Rose Swinford
   Posted Thu December 22, 2011
Stephanie & Family

Words alone cannot express our sympathy on the loss of your beloved husband, father, and friend. Paul will be missed by all who loved and knew him.
Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May God bless you and your family.

Jim & Rose

Mary (Huffman) Novak
   Posted Thu December 22, 2011
Dear Stephanie,
My heart goes out to you and your family. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I will continue to hold you all up in my prayers.
With my heartfelt sympathy.
God Bless You,
Mary (Huffman) Novak

Don and Kathy Clifton
   Posted Thu December 22, 2011
Stephanie and family. We were so sorry to hear this news. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Frederick C. Nicolaisen
   Posted Mon December 26, 2011
My sincerest condolences to all of The Menges family and friends. We were classmates, friends,and "6th St. Gang" members. The laughs wonderful jungle adventures & memories will always remain. You did it well Paul the impression you left behind says it all to those of us who knew you. Your now in HIS Caring hands may the peace of Gods Love be with those you have left behind. Nick

Karen Clark - VP of American Association of Police Polygraphists
   Posted Tue December 27, 2011
Words seem inadequate to express the sadness we (AAPP) feel. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time and may your memories give you strength.

Kevin Krivacsy
   Posted Tue December 27, 2011
Stephanie, I was saddened by Paul''s passing. Up to the moment of his death, I continued to pray for that miracle that we spoke about. Please know I am ready to help you in your time of grief.
Kevin

Frank & Jan Horvath
   Posted Thu December 29, 2011
Dear Stephanie and family, the world has lost a truly kind and gentle man. May God give you strength for the coming months. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. Love, Frank and Jan

Nan Bell
   Posted Sun January 01, 2012
I want to add to the number of people who were saddened at the news of Paul's passing. It's obvious he touched many lives. Many prayers have been and continue to be said for his beloved family. As the New Year begins, we ask the Lord to help Paul's family know that he is still with them in their hearts and memories...as he will remain in ours. May the Peace of Christ surround you all. Sincerely, Nan (DeTore) Bell
CHS Class of 67

Ann Merlino Richardson
   Posted Fri January 13, 2012
Paul shared so many happy memories of Steve and our mutual love for Panama. My sons always enjoyed visiting with Paul and listening to his high school stories. Your family will always have a special place in my heart. My Love and prayers, Ann

Michael & Kelli Senior
   Posted Thu February 09, 2012
Stephanie & Family:

Kelli and I are so saddened to hear about Paul. He was a tremendous person who always lightened the mood. We apologize for the tardiness of this, but we just found about it this morning.

Please let us know if you need anything.

~ Michael & Kelli

Marvin & Juliann Green
   Posted Fri January 25, 2013
To Stephanie and all the family our most sincere condolences. No mere words can assuage the grief and the loss of so gracious and kind a man. How sad to search for an old Army friend only to find his obituary. How well I remember how Paul took a fresh out of school counterintelligence agent and led and guided him. All my success I owe to Paul because of his mentoring. Not only was he a mentor but also a friend. Paul, oh how I wish we could return to those days in Bad Hersfeld. The world is less of a place with his loss. Stephanie, I hope and pray that the Lord has allowed His peace to rest upon you and all your family. God Bless you all.

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